Seeking mediation may be advisable if a court settlement is not feasible. If neither party agrees to a solution and both parties are unwilling to undergo court proceeding, guided mediation can help resolve the dispute. Geertruid van Wassenaer is a registered mediator (Netherlands Mediation Institute) and has succesfully resolved many seemingly-insoluable problems. Clever solutions can often be found based not on legal grounds but in the narrative of the case. Lengthy and ongoing disagreements can be untangled by an full and frank exchange of information. By inviting both parties to listen intently to one another, the mediator can help them come to an appropriate resolution of the dispute. The process is not unlike climbing a spiral staircase and seeing a solution by looking down from the top. Parties in a meditation proceeding have often remarked afterwards that it was a unique and enlightening experience.